The theme of this week’s blog posts has to do with settling. I know, I usually don’t have a theme. I like to be spontaneous with my blog, since the other parts of my life require organization.
But I digress. This week, we have a theme. If you read Monday’s guest post by the witty and honest Skye Blue from MetanotherFrog, than you can see where she stands on the matter. Settling is easy. We do it in our love lives, our careers, even our dinner choices (I’ll just eat the last of the pizza and ice cream—why be healthy and make a salad?). It’s the easy way out. It’s the thing that is right in front of us, so we don’t have to work for it, find it, or challenge ourselves in some other way. Settling is convenient. It’s a bowl full of empty carbs. (Sorry, i couldn’t resist the food tie-in.)
Which is why settling doesn’t make us feel good. I learned this the hard way (story found on my recent guest post for the MetanotherFrog folks). When we settle, we know it. Sure, there are other choices out there, but we don’t know if they’ll actually be any better. Settling is safe. We know what to expect. We may not wake up in the morning excited to go to work, or feel weak in the knees when we see the object of our affection, but we can protect ourselves from being hurt.
What we tend to forget is that we also protect ourselves from feeling happy—ecstatic, giddy, wonderfully, irrefutably happy.
What’s the worst that could happen if you decide settling isn’t for you? You live the life that you want to live, with more ups and downs, more possibilities, more excitement, and more pain. More…living. To me, that’s better than the life that was easy to come by.
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
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