February 14th brings its share of anxiety if you’re single. Not just because you see couples around you doing couple-y things, but because it’s a holiday designed to make you feel isolated and alone if you aren’t coupled up.
So, of course it kind of pisses you off. At least, it pissed me off. I just wanted the day to be done so everyone could go back to their normal lives without all the freaking hearts and flowers.
But honestly, we miss the opportunity we have on Valentine’s Day – the one day of the year where love reigns supreme. The ironic thing is – many of us are looking for love, when instead – we should be giving love.
I wish I’d realized this sooner. I’m a big believer in karma, and also, the laws of physics – every action has an equal and opposite reaction. So if you do something for or to someone else, positive or negative, it will come back to you in some way. So if you decide to practice love on February 14th, you will find it comes back to you. Trust me on this.
This isn’t rocket science. Have you ever done a kind deed for a stranger – like bought a cup of coffee for the janitor at work, or babysat your neighbor’s kids while they took grandpa to the hospital? And how did it make you feel afterwards? Personally, I have noticed that in addition to making me feel good, it also makes me judge a little less, love myself a little more. Offering kindness eases my anxiety about the world and my place in it.
There are so many opportunities to do random acts of kindness, to be of service, to give love. So why not take the day we celebrate love to give it to those around us? Love is not just romantic. It heals. It gives hope. It brings joy. And it can be given to anyone, at any time.
Happy Valentine’s Day.
With love,
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
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