Still having trouble writing your online dating profile? In my experience, it helps to experiment a bit and keep updating it, mostly
because you’ll be at the front of the search line-up on the site. Especially true for POF.
I read a couple of interesting posts that you might find helpful if you are stuck, or if you’ve been recycling the same description for the past few years. The first is from DateDaily.com about words/ phrases you should omit. Some of my personal favorites include:
- “No drama” – if you have to spell out that you don’t want drama (usually because you’ve experienced it in past relationships gone bad), you probably will attract the dramatic types. Leave it off if you really mean it.
- “I can’t believe I’m doing this” – you come across as someone who thinks he/she is better than the online daters looking at your profile. The thing is, you ARE online dating, so own it.
- “long walks on the beach” – Aren’t we over this line yet? Maybe since I’m in L.A. I see it more, and some people here do make a point to take these lovely walks often. But please, PLEASE think of something more original and exciting to say. Please?
As for the other article, there is a new service called ProfileWiz that actually writes your online profile for you! That’s right. You scroll through a group of pictures with a question like “Where would you like to travel?” and “What would spark a conversation with you?”, then you click on the picture that best describes your answer. Based on your answers, ProfileWiz writes a description about you, your interests, what you like to do on the weekend, etc.
I like the idea, but was less impressed with the results. The grammar sucks and word choices don’t account for people living outside of the UK…although maybe people would think I was British and that would score me some points in L.A.? Here was mine:
“Here’s the bit I sell myself right? Not one to sit about in my dressing gown of the weekend; I’m looking for someone who’s on my wavelength. As for my take on life, I like to be spontaneous and have quite a relaxed attitude to things.”
That was just an intro….I would have to pay to get the rest, so I decided to pass. Anyway, for what it’s worth, it might help you describe yourself more objectively, or in a different way. Just make sure you edit it first.
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
This is a great post. Especially with you on the ‘I can’t believe I am doing this’. So drab – get over yourselves! There really is a science to all this – still trying to work it out myself.
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Right, what’s with the “long walks on the beach” ideal date? The beaches where I live are dirty and dangerous. Haha
Not one to sit on your dressing gown?! What?! That’s not even sexy – dressing gown implies old woman to me! You gave some great tips though, thanks!