I saw an awesome video today about “Speedie Dating”. While this video was mostly making fun of the whole speed dating process, it was also very true. Both men and women have specific hang-ups when it comes to how to meet each other, how to flirt, and how to connect. Too bad they aren’t at all the same.
Take a look if you have 6 minutes to spare: http://blip.tv/file/3295878?utm_source=player_embedded
I’ve met a lot of men who feel like they need to provide a verbal resume when they date. I’ve also met women who judge men before they even get to know them. Where’s the middle line where they can actually connect?
I guess it’s a pet peeve of mine. I hosted speed dating for six years, and always thought the guys I met were losers or players. The truth is, there is no way I could have known in five minutes. And I definitely rejected a guy if he seemed nervous or uptight. The thing is, all guys are uptight in this kind of situation. And they keep coming back even if they never meet anyone speed dating. It’s a weird, self-defeating cycle.
But I was wrong to so completely dismiss them. Plus, I didn’t recognize how I was coming off to the guys: mostly, standoffish. I can be kind of shy, and some people mistook this for snobbery. Then they couldn’t wait to move on to the next person, and I’d feel silly and rejected.
So what’s the answer? Get to know the person sitting in front of you. Give it a chance for a change. By changing your own behavior in the same situations, you can change your luck.
Even if it didn’t work for me, I like that speed dating taught me something about dating and connecting. So maybe it can work for others.
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
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