Ghosting has become a trendy catchphrase in dating, something that has sparked people’s anger and left them feeling confused and cynical since the rise of Tinder. But really let’s be honest. Ghosting was here long before dating apps, we just didn’t have a trendy name for it.
For those of you unfamiliar, ghosting is when a person you’ve been dating – casually or maybe not so casually – suddenly disappears without warning, without a conversation, without a proper break-up. It’s enough to drive you crazy if you are like me, and go over everything you might have said or done the entire relationship to make someone do this to you.
Let me let you in on a little secret: it’s nothing that you did or didn’t do.
But before you go throwing stones at the person who ghosted you, it’s important to understand something: most of us have ghosted someone, whether we realize it or not. Have you ever been on a date with someone who seemed nice, but was kind of …meh? Maybe after one or two dates, you just weren’t feeling it, so you stopped texting hoping he’d get the hint. Or maybe you just didn’t know how to reject your date without hurting her feelings. We all have our reasons, and it seems logical to us to fade away instead of having an awkward break-up conversation, but maybe it’s not so logical to the person we ghost.
Here’s more on ghosting (and what to do about it) from my latest article for Digital Romance…
XO,
Kelly
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
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