“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” – Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my critical eye – especially when it’s pointed directly back at me. I know I can be judgmental, opinionated, and unforgiving at times. So can everyone. But it’s especially hard when I turn all of that negative talk on myself – it just makes my thoughts seem more true. (They are not. Don’t always believe your thoughts, FYI.)
So I decided this was a good topic to explore for my latest contribution to Owning Pink, website of health guru Lissa Rankin. If you haven’t checked it out, there are lots of pearls of life wisdom, so do it.
Here’s a little excerpt from my post:
I’m a seeker. I like to learn new things, challenge myself, “grow spiritually.” But I also admit that when something good happens, I look for potential problems. I become critical of everything in my life – my decisions, my habits, my behavior. Instead of nurturing and enjoying the blessings I have in my life, I look for how it could all go wrong.
In other words, I self-sabotage.
Not many people know this about me – I keep it hidden because I like to outwardly focus on the positive. I encourage friends to follow their bliss, to take up a new exercise routine or hobby, to go for that incredible new job. I reassure them that they are talented and smart, and that they are destined for success. It’s just a matter of attitude and hard work.
But then in my own life, I look at everything with a more critical eye…
Read the rest of my article for Owning Pink here.
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
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