This week’s post is a round-up of articles I shared with some really great sites, including Owning Pink, The Huffington Post, DatingAdvice.com and Single’s Warehouse. And they all deal with a favorite subject of mine – how to get beyond your fears of dating and make a connection with someone new. It is a hard process at times – rather than dealing with the frustration and disappointment, sometimes it’s easier to ignore your personal life instead. To put your desires on the shelf. But does this really serve you?
It’s important to ask yourself what you want in life and in love.
Before I begin, I wanted to say that these opportunities came about because I just launched a new book called Date Expectations. My book deals with the stress and frustration of dating, so my guest blogs have been aimed at tackling topics that are messy and painful. But hope I believe is what drives us. It is not hokey, it is real. This is because we create it. When we suspend our beliefs about dating – that all guys are jerks, there are no good men out there, I’m too old/ too picky/ too whatever to date, – we are creating a real shift in our thinking, and in our reality.
We are allowing for possibility.
Connections don’t come about because two people are perfect for each other, or magically run into each other at Trader Joe’s and realize they are meant to be together. If only things were that easy. It takes courage to pursue something meaningful. Connections happen because two people are willing to believe that each other is worth pursuing. Even though shit may happen. Shit does happen. But love and passion and incredible relationships happen too.
So why not believe that it can happen to you?
I’m really excited to write for Owning Pink for the very first time! I’ve loved this site and how great a resource it is for women – sharing information on how to be healthy in your relationships, your professional life, your sex life, your creative life, your financial life…well, you get the picture. Check it out.
My piece for DatingAdvice.com deals with the subject of work and dating. We are all busy with our lives, and sometimes we’ll use this to avoid forming romantic ties to anyone. We are too busy to date, but we’re not. We’re just not making it a priority like we do our careers. If you have the motivation to work and get a promotion, maybe it’s time to put that same dedication into your personal life.
And lastly, my article for Huffington Post tackles dating single dads. This can be a deal-breaker for a lot of single women without kids – they avoid dating men with “baggage.” It was for me until I met a guy who changed my mind. I give a few tips on what to expect if you’re thinking about dating a man with kids.
Thanks for all your support and I hope you find some helpful tips in these posts and in my book. It’s on iTunes now, too.
Lots of love,
K
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
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