I’ve been reading a lot lately about what men are doing wrong when it comes to dating. I complained about them myself for years off and on, depending on my current love life situation. Some were too arrogant, some too shy and awkward, some too forward. But now, I’m kind of over all of the negativity.
Because really, I do love and appreciate men. Even when I wasn’t dating ones that were right for me.
So, I thought I’d make a list of what I love about men. Feel free to add your own in the comments.
- They tend to be drama-free. A lot of women like to create drama, but guys are pretty even-keel and rational (except if you’re accidentally dating a gay man like I’ve done once or twice, or an aspiring reality TV star).
- They make me laugh. Ok, some don’t, but most guys are pretty funny and appreciate good humor. (Are you reading this Stephen Colbert? I heart you.)
- They are straightforward. Some might say “uncomplicated”, but to me that sounds like a criticism. Basically, if they like you, they let you know.
- They are sexy.
- They play.
- They aren’t constantly on a diet or asking me if their butt looks fat in those jeans.
- They are serious about work. (Not all, but most. Something about the need to build their empires…yum).
- They are fine with laying on the couch and watching movies on a Saturday afternoon.
- They can grow stubble…I like facial hair.
- They are protective. I’m a woman who likes to take care of herself, but it’s still nice to know someone is looking out for me.
- They rescue without complaint or excuse. I’m not talking about emotional drama…but when my car gets a flat tire and I need a ride, men show up.
- They tell it like it is. Instead of saying what we want to hear, their immediate reaction is to say what they think, without thinking so much of the consequences. Ahh, honesty…
- They like to have fun.
- They’re willing to drive.
- They’re willing to pick up the tab.
These are a few to get us started. Please feel free to leave your own if you’re feeling inspired.
Love you guys…
About Kelly Seal
Kelly is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She blogs about dating, relationships, personal growth and what "healthy living" means to her. You can follow her on Google+, Twitter @kellyseal or through her website www.kellyseal.com.
That’s a pretty accurate list…and I’m glad that you think men building their empires is yummy. I still have hope!
I like that men grill stuff. I can rest easy knowing that a man will BBQ the shit out of something while I sit in the shade and drink beer. It’s how I know that all is in order in the universe.
Me and this gurl has been talking on webcam for almost every night and I think we both like each other. For me I totally love her and I am dead sure she feels the same way for me. Here is the problem we haven’t meet each other in real. I live in Toronto and She lives in Chicago. So its very hard for us to actually meet in real. I will soon move to Windsor on campus to attend university so I’m now at Windsor which is much closer to Chicago but still far away. I am planning something this summer to go visit once but I’m not sure if thats gonna happen because of money issues. I really don’t know what to do. Sometimes I think I should find someone else and I should give up on her and move on but I feel it’s the hardest thing to do. I’m really confused :S .
Thanks for not losing faith! Glad you’ve found SOME use for us! 🙂
I like that men are fairly unobservant. I know men get a bad name for this one because they may not notice your new hairstyle or that the dishwasher needs to be unloaded, but they also tend not to notice things on us that women think are glaring issues like: cellulite, fine lines on our face, the occasional zit or the effects that gravity (and childbirth) on our bodies. Imagine what our self esteem would be like if men were observant in the same ways as women. I shudder at the mere thought of that. Great list Kelly.
L.A. Idiot – men who like working is definitely a turn-ON for me.
Man-shopper – thanks for the BBQ comment, appropriate for summer and very true. They also know where the cold beer is, no matter where you go.
Ethan – thanks for stopping by! There are many things I love about men. I just thought I’d share it with this post, since I keep reading about the harsh things. Anyway, enjoy!
Tina – I DO appreciate the unobservant quality…I have accumulated more wrinkles around the eyes in the last year, and my boyfriend has yet to notice. Ahhh…
Ray – this is a good question, and one I think I will respond to with a separate post. It’s a difficult dilemna: how well do you really know someone when you haven’t met in person, only over webcam? My immediate response is that you don’t fully know if you have chemistry with someone until you are face to face. Webcams are great for giving you an idea, but nothing substitutes a real encounter. I would say, don’t put all your eggs in one basket and count on a relationship with this girl until you meet in person. See how you feel after your summer visit, then make the decision of whether you want to pursue this relationship. Good luck!
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Love this list! It’s only missing one thing: They smell awesome.
Straight men = steak + potatoes + sex + sleep. Repeat. Gay men = the same, only non-fat + glitter. 😉
Well said, excellant blog.